Beyond self blame

Much of our blaming is self-directed. Self blaming offers us guilt, shame, and pain. It is not the same as holding yourself accountable.

You, in your guilty state, are of no good to others. Your guilt makes you small when they need you to be big, to lead, to shine.

The past was the past. Let it go. Learn from it. Face your deepest, darkest fears and learn. These fears will dissolve, being the illusions they are. Don't define yourself by your "sins". Don't define yourself by  the criticism and negative opinions of others. Use the thoughts that help you to be more effective, and let go of the rest. Learn and grow. Reflect honestly, and move on.

Step back from your thoughts of self blaming, and look at them. They are only thoughts. See them as separate from you. Make decisions about who you are going to be. No one can decide this for you. You are accountable. Spend more time noticing what gifts you have to offer. Focus and build on your strengths. Wherever you are telling yourself "I can't do that, because ..." wonder instead, "What if I could do that? How could I do that?"

True greatness is humble. You recognize your greatness, yet you know that you have to deal with the same insecurities and fears everyone else does. Move beyond self-blaming. Be you. Be great!