Change, fix, and improve. People invest a lot of money on the hope that someday they'll be okay. Stop right now. You are already okay.
• Discover who you are. Your essence. Your gifts. Your purpose. Appreciate and express these.
• Discover who you are not. Your judgments. Your fantasies that you will never act upon. Let them go.
• There's no one to blame. This is your movie and you are writing it and living it.
William Frank Diedrich
http://adults-at-work.com
Tuesday, July 30, 2013
Fear of Fear
Don't be afraid of your fear. It's just a signal. It tells you that your ego is threatened, that you've pushed on its limits; that someone else has threatened your view of self; that you feel unsafe.
Rather than run away from it, dive into it. What does it feel like? Where is it uncomfortable? Who are you being when you feel this? Push on it, just a little.
Lean into it, like walking into a strong wind. Open your mind and heart to learning from it.
What lies beyond your fear? What are the possibilities? What if you asked that person out?
Does it really matter if they say yes or no. What if you actually started that book, or song or play you said you would write?
Most of us don't fail. We give up. Better to fail than give up. But then, you may succeed. What do you want? Who would you be without your excuses?
Rather than run away from it, dive into it. What does it feel like? Where is it uncomfortable? Who are you being when you feel this? Push on it, just a little.
Lean into it, like walking into a strong wind. Open your mind and heart to learning from it.
What lies beyond your fear? What are the possibilities? What if you asked that person out?
Does it really matter if they say yes or no. What if you actually started that book, or song or play you said you would write?
Most of us don't fail. We give up. Better to fail than give up. But then, you may succeed. What do you want? Who would you be without your excuses?
Wednesday, July 17, 2013
Come out and play!
An Inner Voice is calling to you. Can you hear it? It's saying "Come out and play! The Universe is your amusement park. Dance! Sing! Express! Be you! Forgive! Be the owner of your life and determine what it is that you want. What do you want?"
Whatever you want, ask for it. Work for it. Take steps toward it. Be it.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
The Road Home, Beyond Blaming, and Adults at Work
available at http://adults-at-work.com
Tuesday, July 16, 2013
Healing begins
We all have positive and negative images we hold. If you insist on being positive all the time, your negatives are still there. Also, by saying that you MUST be positive, you resist the negative. What you resist will persist, and become stronger.
Don't blame yourself and don't make yourself wrong for how you feel. Accept yourself exactly as you are, including the negative images and emotions. Welcome the negative and immerse yourself in it without resistance. It will play itself out. When the pain subsides, ask yourself what you want. Who do you want to be? How do you want to feel? Embrace that. Feel it. Be it.
Your problem isn't that you don't have enough wisdom, value, power, or love. You are wisdom, value, power, and love. "Problems" are caused by all of the deeply held self images you hold which fool you into believing you must seek after something "out there" to fix you. You need no fixing!
Seek not to change yourself, but to accept yourself--all parts of your self--and healing begins.
William Frank Diedrich
http://adults-at-work.com
Don't blame yourself and don't make yourself wrong for how you feel. Accept yourself exactly as you are, including the negative images and emotions. Welcome the negative and immerse yourself in it without resistance. It will play itself out. When the pain subsides, ask yourself what you want. Who do you want to be? How do you want to feel? Embrace that. Feel it. Be it.
Your problem isn't that you don't have enough wisdom, value, power, or love. You are wisdom, value, power, and love. "Problems" are caused by all of the deeply held self images you hold which fool you into believing you must seek after something "out there" to fix you. You need no fixing!
Seek not to change yourself, but to accept yourself--all parts of your self--and healing begins.
William Frank Diedrich
http://adults-at-work.com
Monday, July 15, 2013
You are Powerful
Everyone has power. It is the ability to get things done. Power is the motivation to move forward with confidence whether or not you know the outcome. Power is trust in the Creative Intelligence that drives you.
We are so powerful that we often convince ourselves we are powerless. We pretend that we are each an isolated being dependent on the decisions and moods of others.
We are so powerful that we create amazing stories of weakness and victimization based on what others have done toward us. We are so convinced of our victimhood that we play that role for a lifetime. We experienced pain when others were aggressive toward us, but now we suffer as we cling to the memory of that experience.
It's okay if that is what you think you must do.
But, an Inner Voice is calling to you, saying "Come on out and play! The Universe is your amusement park. Dance! Sing! Express! Be you! Forgive! Be the owner of your life and determine what it is that you want. What do you want?"
Whatever you want, ask for it. Work for it. Take steps toward it. Be it. The way to power? Feel your emotions of powerlessness, your anxiety, frustration, hopelessness, hurt, etc. Experience it and then remind yourself that you have created this state of powerlessness. It's not who you are. Next feel your power. Stand up straight and breathe deeply. Feel the energy of your confidence moving through your body. This is a sample of your power. Give thanks. Ask for guidance. Move forward.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
The Road Home,
Beyond Blaming, and
Adults at Work.
http://intelligentspirit.com/catalog.html
We are so powerful that we often convince ourselves we are powerless. We pretend that we are each an isolated being dependent on the decisions and moods of others.
We are so powerful that we create amazing stories of weakness and victimization based on what others have done toward us. We are so convinced of our victimhood that we play that role for a lifetime. We experienced pain when others were aggressive toward us, but now we suffer as we cling to the memory of that experience.
It's okay if that is what you think you must do.
But, an Inner Voice is calling to you, saying "Come on out and play! The Universe is your amusement park. Dance! Sing! Express! Be you! Forgive! Be the owner of your life and determine what it is that you want. What do you want?"
Whatever you want, ask for it. Work for it. Take steps toward it. Be it. The way to power? Feel your emotions of powerlessness, your anxiety, frustration, hopelessness, hurt, etc. Experience it and then remind yourself that you have created this state of powerlessness. It's not who you are. Next feel your power. Stand up straight and breathe deeply. Feel the energy of your confidence moving through your body. This is a sample of your power. Give thanks. Ask for guidance. Move forward.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
The Road Home,
Beyond Blaming, and
Adults at Work.
http://intelligentspirit.com/catalog.html
Wednesday, July 10, 2013
Who are you being?
Good day or bad day--it's your experience and life is to be experienced.
Your experience depends on who you are being at this moment.
Who you are being creates how you are feeling.
Who you are being plus how you feel leads to the chain of thoughts that flow in your mind.
Be---Feel---Think---do (behavior)---results
Who you are being creates how you feel which together determine what you think and then what you do. The results produced are the life you see before you.
Accept this without judgment of self and you can change who you are being, which will change your results and ultimately--your experience.
You are the only creator of your experience. Everyone else is a character in your movie, and you are a character in theirs. You assign everyone their parts by who you are being.
This is why there is no blame, only responsibility.
William Frank Diedrich
Author of The Road Home, Beyond Blaming, and Adults at Work.
available at http://adults-at-work.com
Your experience depends on who you are being at this moment.
Who you are being creates how you are feeling.
Who you are being plus how you feel leads to the chain of thoughts that flow in your mind.
Be---Feel---Think---do (behavior)---results
Who you are being creates how you feel which together determine what you think and then what you do. The results produced are the life you see before you.
Accept this without judgment of self and you can change who you are being, which will change your results and ultimately--your experience.
You are the only creator of your experience. Everyone else is a character in your movie, and you are a character in theirs. You assign everyone their parts by who you are being.
This is why there is no blame, only responsibility.
William Frank Diedrich
Author of The Road Home, Beyond Blaming, and Adults at Work.
available at http://adults-at-work.com
Tuesday, July 9, 2013
the Ultimate Payoff
There are many payoffs in playing the role of a victim in life:
• I get to be special, therefore I am treated special. Maybe you'll take it easy on me because, after all, I'm a victim.
• Nothing is required of me. You can't expect anything much from a victim, right?
• I don't have to step up. Others need to do that for me, because I'm still a victim.
• I get to be self-righteously right.
• Whoever hurt me, owes me.
The ultimate payoff is in choosing complete acceptance and responsibility for my life exactly as it is. Now, no one owes me anything. I don't have to wait. I can decide what I want and take steps toward it.
The ultimate payoff is my freedom.
Victim is not who you are--only a role you may play. Courage is not a lack of fear. Courage is facing fear and taking the steps you need to take. Have courage, dear one.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming and Adults at Work,
available at http://adults-at-work.com
• I get to be special, therefore I am treated special. Maybe you'll take it easy on me because, after all, I'm a victim.
• Nothing is required of me. You can't expect anything much from a victim, right?
• I don't have to step up. Others need to do that for me, because I'm still a victim.
• I get to be self-righteously right.
• Whoever hurt me, owes me.
The ultimate payoff is in choosing complete acceptance and responsibility for my life exactly as it is. Now, no one owes me anything. I don't have to wait. I can decide what I want and take steps toward it.
The ultimate payoff is my freedom.
Victim is not who you are--only a role you may play. Courage is not a lack of fear. Courage is facing fear and taking the steps you need to take. Have courage, dear one.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming and Adults at Work,
available at http://adults-at-work.com
Monday, July 8, 2013
Nothing is Everything
Nothing in your life is someone else's fault. I repeat, NOTHING. You are the sole creator of your experience.
Once you accept this you become powerful, effective, and free.
William Frank Diedrich, author of Adults at Work and Beyond Blaming,
available at
http://adults-at-work.com
Once you accept this you become powerful, effective, and free.
William Frank Diedrich, author of Adults at Work and Beyond Blaming,
available at
http://adults-at-work.com
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