Victimhood

Whenever we blame we find ourselves in the victim mode. It's not a happy place to be.
Think about it:
• You're miserable.
• You feel powerless.
• Your well-being depends on what someone else says or does.
• You're frustrated that things aren't changing (in the other person)

The goal of victimhood is justification for the way you feel. It's an unattainable goal.

Try this: Allow yourself to totally be the victim. Feel the emotions fully.
As the emotions run their course, tell yourself the truth. "Victim" is how you feel, not who you are.
Who are you? You are the person who creates your experience. That makes you powerful.
How do you want to feel?
When you are truly powerful:
• You feel joyful.
• You feel free.
• You know that your well-being is completely up to you.
• You are at peace with yourself and others.

William Frank Diedrich, author of Adults at Work and Beyond Blaming.
http://adults-at-work.com