Asking for what you want

I have a bank account that I only use for a couple of specific things. It was low and I left it that way until the time when I'll need to use it again. A company took money from it as an automatic debit without my permission. This caused the bank to charge me $28. By the time I got the notice, the bank had charged me another $36.

I called the company and had them replace what they took out. I talked to a bank manager about the charges. In this kind of conversation, you have to realize who has the positional power. In this case, it was the banker. Blaming the bank for their practices would not help me. Getting angry or feeling abused wouldn't help either. I took the time to build some rapport. I acknowledged that he had the power.

I asked for my money back. I was polite, direct, firm, and respectful. He went into the computer and returned my money. I thanked him and proceeded to talk to him about my public workshop that is coming up. He was very interested!

I find that honesty and sincerity expressed from strength work much better than blaming, complaining,  yelling, or forcefulness. If you can communicate like an adult, most people will at least listen. In summary, if you want something from someone, treat them like a human being and ask for it.

William Frank Diedrich,
http://adult-at-work.com

You're it!

You, and you alone are the cause of your experience.

If you believe you are not the cause of your experience, then you should 

go find who is. 

Follow that person around and try to motivate them to get for you what you want in life.

William Frank Diedrich

http://adults-at-work.com

Stalking my Joy

I am stalking my joy. I find it hidden beneath my fear, patiently waiting for me to recognize it, to welcome it. It's not lost. It is myself who has been lost, running from my fears, avoiding life, blaming self and others for my circumstances. I welcome my fear and allow it to run its course. When it is spent. When I have allowed myself to experience it without judgment -- there lies my Spirit, shining, joyful, ready to live through me and as me. I am stalking my joy. I see it reflected in music, art, nature, and the smiles of other people. When I see the world clearly, it reminds me of who I am, of what I am capable of. I am stalking my joy. William Frank Diedrich, author of The Road Home and Adults at Work. http://adults-at-work.com

Stalking My Fears

I am stalking my fears.

Fear makes us blame. Fear is nothing to be afraid of.
It is emotion -- energy in motion.

I am stalking my fears -- actively watching for them to emerge as anxiety, or anger, or helplessness. I catch them in my trap and feel them -- feel them fully, without analyzing or judging. Then I let them go.

When fear shows up, I run toward  it, not from it.

My fears will learn to be afraid of me. They will become my servants.

I am stalking my fears.


William Frank Diedrich,
author of Adults at Work and three other books.


http://adults-at-work.com

A No Blaming Approach

A no blaming approach means that you can teach yourself to feel good even when things look bad. You can look at your circumstances and say: "Thank you." Whatever is happening is for your learning. You recognize that whatever your life is, you own it.  Your thoughts -- you own them. Your emotions -- you own them. Your actions -- you own them.

To disown or deny is to resist, and to resist makes negative conditions persist. Stop judging and learn from whatever is happening. Feel your emotions and let them go. Clarify what you want and move forward. Go with the flow.

No, it isn't easy. If you blame and complain, that isn't easy either. Who said it should be easy?

William Frank Diedrich
author of Adults at Work and three other books at
http://adults-at-work.com

Live from the inside out

Live from the inside out. Your self-perception creates your thoughts, your emotions, and then your actions. No one is to blame for who you are or for what you choose to do.  Attempting to manipulate the world to make yourself feel better is hard work, especially since you can't control the world.

What you can control is how you see yourself and what you think. Do your thoughts and beliefs make you happy? Do they feel uplifting, or do they bring you down? Do you acknowledge your miracles and successes, or mostly criticize yourself? Each time you feel bad, stop! Let your negative emotions flow through you and then let them go. Envision the life you want and focus on those feelings. Call upon your spiritual resources to guide you in moving up and into a higher quality of life. Your Higher Power will not change your life FOR you. It will help you change your life THROUGH you and AS you.

It begins with your intention. What do you really want?

William Frank Diedrich, author of The Road Home, Beyond Blaming, and Adults at Work.
Found at http://adults-at-work.com