Beyond Blaming

If you feel hurt, you may find yourself immersed in the pain. You will want the person you blame to be immersed in the pain, also.

To be healthy and free, it is important to feel the pain. Experience it. Let it move through you. In this you know you are alive. Then let it go.

People carry pain and blaming for years, and for what purpose? If you do this, then what is your intention?  You may say, that's just how I feel. Or, I can't get past that.  In reality you carry the pain because you want to. There is a payoff in being the victim of another's words or actions.  It hurts, but it hurts so good! Is this what you really want?  To hurt indefinitely? To be someone's victim for all time?

Or do you prefer freedom?  No one makes you hurt except you. Choose to let it go. Be merciful to yourself. Aren't you worth it? Stop telling yourself the same story again and again. Move beyond blaming and take responsibility. Decide what is more important -- the stories of the past, or the possibilities of the present?

William Frank Diedrich,  Author of Beyond Blaming
http://noblaming.com