To move beyond blaming is to move beyond guilt. Guilt is the source of blaming. When we blame others we project our guilt on them. When we blame ourselves we wallow in guilt.
Isn't there a better way? Is it necessary to carry guilt? It hurts. It gnaws at us. Does it serve us? If you feel bad enough, will it make someone else feel better?
Guilt is of the past. Blaming is about the past. What do you want now? Is guilt a part of that?
Guilt is a cruel master who feeds on your painful thoughts. Determine what you really want. When your guilty, blaming thoughts arise, stop. Think about what you want instead. Think about the person you want to be. Shift your thoughts toward your goal.
Beyond Blaming, by William Frank Diedrich
http://noblaming.com
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