Your world and your life are inside your mind. Things seem to be happening around you, yet you give them the meaning they have for you. You decide what is good or bad or important or unimportant.
Let's rewind that. You don't decide. Your conditioning decides that for you. You behave automatically based on past learning.
However, you can become the "Decider" by becoming aware--aware of your emotions, and thoughts, and the stories that you tell yourself. These internals, not the outside world, determine your experience.
You live from the inside out.
Start now with these three questions:
1. How do you feel right now?
2. What role or identity are you playing in your mind and body? (victim, not good enough, powerful, happy, sad, angry?) How are you defining others?
3. How can I see more clearly? If you pray, this is a good time. Ask to see clearly, as people and things truly are, minus the opinions and judgments. Disengage your ego and its need to defend and attack, to compare and criticize.
Stop often and take inventory of your state of being. This takes you off "automatic" and allows you to choose your thoughts and behaviors. It allows you to reframe, to see differently.
William Frank Diedrich, author of Beyond Blaming and Adults at Work,
http://noblaming.com
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