In uncomfortable situations, people often say "I can't be myself." This is a form of blaming where you say that someone or something else is responsible for your decision not to be yourself. In an uncomfortable situation or relationship, step back and ask: "Is this who I am?" The pain of not being you outweighs the risk of truly being you in front of others.
It doesn't work to blame others for your unwillingness to be yourself in front of them. Speaking up will not always get others to change, but at the very least, you have been congruent with your true self. This is integrity.
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