Beyond hope

When we deny or resist what is happening in our lives, we may choose to hope rather than to act. We hope that something or someone will save us. Hope, in this sense, gets in the way of action. Better than hope is expectation. We expect to succeed. Even though we may not know the future, we are responsive to the moment. Envision what you want, and take action.


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Leadership

In any situation where you are a leader, ask yourself:
•  Have I set forth a vision?
•  Are expectations clear?
•  Do I meet people's needs?
•  Do people have the resources needed to do their jobs?
•  Do I speak honestly and listen carefully?
•  Are behavioral boundaries clearly set?

If you have not done ALL of these things, you cannot blame people for poor performance.

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Who you believe you are

Who you believe you are creates what you experience. If you accept yourself and are confident, you will draw success to yourself.  People will see it in your walk, hear it in your voice, and notice it in your eyes. Life will respond to your confidence when you are clear about what you want. This is not a hit or miss world and life is not a crap shoot. What you give is what you get.

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Mistakes

All data from the world is filtered through your belief system. A confident person sees mistakes as temporary conditions, while someone who lacks confidence sees mistakes as evidence of their unworthiness. A powerful person learns from mistakes. How do you see mistakes?

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Your message

Your thoughts, words and actions are your message. What messages do your behavior, your body language and facial expressions, your decisions, and your actions send to others? Your overall behavior is your legacy. Are you a visionary, or are you a blamer? What stories do people tell about you?

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You set the tone

Wherever you go, you set a tone. If you shrink into the corner, you influence people to make you invisible. If you don’t believe in what you say or in your right to say it, people won’t take you seriously. When you believe in yourself fully, your passion and confidence attract the attention of others. If you care about them, they sense it. If you value yourself, you will find others valuing you, too. People respond to you in accordance with how you see yourself and how you see them. 

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Your influence determines the results you produce. Life responds to you in accordance with the confidence you hold. The circumstances of your life are your ripple effect.

The Ripple Effect

You give what you have inside of you. If you are joyful and confident, you bring confidence and joy to your relationships. If you are angry and hurt, you bring anger and hurt. Either way, your thoughts and emotions ripple outward. 

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In center of attention thinking, you see the world as having caused you to feel hurt or angry. As a center of influence, you acknowledge the way you feel, and you recognize that you are the cause. Once again, thoughts create emotion, not other people.

Self-reflection

An essential element to becoming an adult is the desire and the ability to self-reflect. . . Self-reflection is not self-criticism. Beating yourself up is not useful, and it usually leads to pain and feelings of inferiority. Self-reflection is the ability to step back and observe yourself, as if in a mirror.  It is to clearly see your thoughts, emotions, communications, and behaviors along with the results you are producing.

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Good to take a break

Today I didn't read or listen to anything political. It feels good to take a break from blaming.
Also, I didn't blame anyone today. It's good to take a break.
Without blaming I am content. I worked for several hours finishing my book, and I didn't blame myself that it's taking so long. It's good to accept yourself rather than to blame yourself.

It is the same as saying I avoided illness today, and I was well. Blaming is a disease -- one that you can cure with your intention, a little discipline, and love.

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Complicated problems

Complicated problems don't have simple answers. We tend to blame whoever is standing next to the problem. In politics, people blame the president when things go bad. The president does not act alone.
Democrats blamed President Bush for Iraq, yet most of them voted to send the troops in. Republicans blame President Obama for joblessness, yet in four years they have come up with no significant legislation themselves. Current problems have taken 40 years to develop. There is no one person to blame.

Whoever is president must have the support of both parties.
There can be robust disagreement and debate, and support.
Put party second and country first.

We do not hold our leaders accountable. We only blame.

When you join in the blaming you become distracted from the reality. Both parties have colluded to create the current state. We, the people, have supported them.

Hold your leaders accountable. Ask for their plans. Don't be satisfied with rhetoric.

And pray. Pray that the best candidates will win, understanding that there is no way you could know what they will run into and how they'll respond. Make your best move and turn it over.

William Frank Diedrich. author of
Beyond Blaming,
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