Beyond Guilt

It is important to move beyond guilt.

Do something because you want, or because it is the right thing based on your intuition/wisdom--not because of guilt. Guilt will taint your action. Acting from guilt leads to resentment.

Guilt is a form of manipulation we use on each other and on ourselves.
The result is usually destructive.

Guilt is self-blaming, and it is a desire for punishment. If guilt is your constant companion, have you punished yourself enough?

Let it go, and live. You cannot feel guilty enough to make someone else feel better.

If you must redeem yourself, take action from a place of love and strength, and then move on.

William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming and Adults at Work.
http://noblaming.com

Control

The myth of self-improvement is that if you think positive enough you can control your life. Just as a white water rafter cannot control the river, you cannot control life.

The rafter becomes skilled as a navigator and learns how best to respond to the river in whatever state s/he finds it.  Each rapids and each wave present opportunities for joy and accomplishment. Even the best get thrown out of the raft on occasion. S/He doesn't blame the river. S/He points his/her feet downstream, going with the flow, and then gets back in the raft.

Through personal responsibility and managing your thinking, you become a skilled navigator and responsive to whatever happens. Events that occur are defined by your perception of them. Your ability to go with the flow,  rather than resist it--rather than blame Life-- determines your experience.

Listen to your Inner Guidance and work to develop the faith that all is happening for your good. The Universe is your playground. Control the only thing that you can--your view of yourself and of life.

William Frank Diedrich,
author of Beyond Blaming and Adults at Work
http://noblaming.com