The world is inside your mind

Your world and your life are inside your mind.  Things seem to be happening around you, yet you give them the meaning they have for you. You decide what is good or bad or important or unimportant.

Let's rewind that. You don't decide. Your conditioning decides that for you. You behave automatically based on past learning.

However, you can become the "Decider" by becoming aware--aware of your emotions, and thoughts, and the stories that you tell yourself. These internals, not the outside world, determine your experience.
You live from the inside out.

Start now with these three questions:
1. How do you feel right now?
2.  What role or identity are you playing in your mind and body? (victim, not good enough, powerful, happy, sad, angry?)  How are you defining others?
3. How can I see more clearly? If you pray, this is a good time. Ask to see clearly, as people and things truly are, minus the opinions and judgments. Disengage your ego and its need to defend and attack, to compare and criticize.

Stop often and take inventory of your state of being. This takes you off "automatic" and allows you to choose your thoughts and behaviors. It allows you to reframe, to see differently.

William Frank Diedrich, author of Beyond Blaming and Adults at Work,
http://noblaming.com

Forgiveness

Some people say that some things are unforgiveable.
That's like saying:  "An event or series of events was hurtful and I am going to keep on being hurt. I am going to make myself suffer because somehow that will make the world right."

Let it go! Free yourself of all blaming, of others and of yourself. Forgiveness is the gift that you give to yourself. Which do you want more: the pain of hurtful memories, or the experience of a joyful life? They are your thoughts. You are creating your experience in this moment. What do you want?

William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming
http://noblaming.com

Be Happy!

Be happy!
That is my goal.
This means I will:
•  Think thoughts that lead me to happiness.
•  Take actions that lead toward happiness.
•  Relate to others in ways that lead to happiness.
•  Be a happy person in any situation.

This is not a message of positive thinking. It is a message of alignment. If you want something, you must become it, immerse yourself in it. No one can give it to you. You must accept, feel, and then release emotions that contradict the goal. Generate love and joy within yourself. Reach out to your Higher Self (Higher Power) for guidance, for how to reinterpret your world.)

All humans seek to control their experience. It is the prime motivation. Control exercised externally leads to frustration and unhappiness. Control exercised internally is the path to happiness.

William Frank Diedrich, author of
Adults at Work and Beyond Blaming
http://noblaming.com

Adult Organizations

Leadership  driven by authority operates on several myths:

•  That ordering people about is the best way to get things done.

•  That blaming and criticism are the best way to learn.

•   That your job is to please your boss.

•  That you must optimize yourself and/or your department.

In an adult organization:

•  People are vision and value driven, not authority driven.

•  Building on people's strengths is the way to get things done.

•  Your job is to produce results  (That serve your customer or that help your colleagues)

•  We focus on the highest good for the organization and those who are served.

It's time our organizations grew up!

William Frank Diedrich, author of 

Adults at Work,

http://adults-at-work.com

Faith

It is important to move forward in faith--faith that things will work out. It is amazing how many things we put our faith in--opinions about others, worries about the future, the words of a radio pundit.

Opinions, worries, and pundits are of little value, unless of course, you place value on them. How much do you value yourself, your purpose, your connection to your Higher Power?

Take a deep breath and step forward, even though you can't see the future. Have confidence, but not blind confidence. Pay attention and make adjustments as needed.  You are here for a reason!


William Frank Diedrich,
author of The Road Home: The Journey Beyond The Spiritual Quick Fix.
Find it at http://noblaming.com/Books.html