Envision the kind of day you will have. Joyous? Peaceful? Love-filled?
Let this be your goal. This doesn't mean that life will magically supply you with joy or peace or love.
To set this vision means that you will seek it in everyone and everything. It means that this will be your response to every person and event. It means that this is your bottom line for today--you will accept nothing less than joy, or peace or love, or whatever vision you set.
It's not about what the world will give you today--it is about what you will give to the world. And what you give you will receive.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming, and Adults at Work,
http://noblaming.com
Friday, August 30, 2013
Tuesday, August 27, 2013
What do you want?
What do you want?
Most of us are clear about what we don't want, because we spend so much time thinking (and blaming and complaining about it.)
Do you want joy? Then stop focusing on everything that makes you hurt, or sad, or angry.
Go inside and find the joy there, and let yourself feel it. True joy, love, happiness do not come from other people or circumstances. You must find them in your own heart and mind. Find it and feel it.
In life, the inside creates the outside, not the reverse. You cannot change the world, but you can give the world someone different to respond to. It will then respond to your joy. You are a center of influence. It's not about what life is giving to you. What are you giving to life? Give what you want to receive.
William Frank Diedrich
author of Beyond Blaming and Adults at Work.
http://noblaming.com
Most of us are clear about what we don't want, because we spend so much time thinking (and blaming and complaining about it.)
Do you want joy? Then stop focusing on everything that makes you hurt, or sad, or angry.
Go inside and find the joy there, and let yourself feel it. True joy, love, happiness do not come from other people or circumstances. You must find them in your own heart and mind. Find it and feel it.
In life, the inside creates the outside, not the reverse. You cannot change the world, but you can give the world someone different to respond to. It will then respond to your joy. You are a center of influence. It's not about what life is giving to you. What are you giving to life? Give what you want to receive.
William Frank Diedrich
author of Beyond Blaming and Adults at Work.
http://noblaming.com
Monday, August 26, 2013
Choose Who You Will Be
We see the world as a series of causes and effects. If you blame someone, you see yourself as an effect.
You are the creator of your own experience, so you are cause.
You want to be cause. Cause is the only way you have any power. Take reponsibility for your experience in each and every circumstance. Responsibility, not blame. Own it. Ask yourself: Who am I being? How does that make me feel? How does it make me act? Is this who you want to be?
You can choose who you will be.
Beyond Blaming, by
William Frank Diedrich
http://noblaming.com
You are the creator of your own experience, so you are cause.
You want to be cause. Cause is the only way you have any power. Take reponsibility for your experience in each and every circumstance. Responsibility, not blame. Own it. Ask yourself: Who am I being? How does that make me feel? How does it make me act? Is this who you want to be?
You can choose who you will be.
Beyond Blaming, by
William Frank Diedrich
http://noblaming.com
Saturday, August 24, 2013
We are just too damn wimpy!
As I stepped into the lake this morning, it felt cold. I hesitated, not wanting to feel the discomfort. As I was hesitating I asked "What is my intention?" I want to to go in the lake. Then why am I waiting? Either go in or don't. I moved quickly into the water. It took several minutes for my body to adjust, but when it did, I enjoyed the water for over an hour.
If we don't enjoy life or live our purpose, it isn't because people or situations stop us. We are just too damn wimpy! Make your intention crystal clear and then align your thoughts and actions. There may be discomfort as you leave the "comfort zone" and move forward. What do you want?
Whatever your dream is, do it. Accept your calling. Totally immerse yourself in the effort. There are no excuses and whining is unbecoming of you. You can do this!
William Frank Diedrich
Beyond Blaming
http://noblaming.com
If we don't enjoy life or live our purpose, it isn't because people or situations stop us. We are just too damn wimpy! Make your intention crystal clear and then align your thoughts and actions. There may be discomfort as you leave the "comfort zone" and move forward. What do you want?
Whatever your dream is, do it. Accept your calling. Totally immerse yourself in the effort. There are no excuses and whining is unbecoming of you. You can do this!
William Frank Diedrich
Beyond Blaming
http://noblaming.com
Friday, August 23, 2013
Do you really want that?
Sometimes we tell ourselves that we really want something, but we are scared to actually have it.
Then things don't work out and we blame someone, or something, or ourselves.
Secretly we are relieved to have failed, and to have someone or something to blame for it. That becomes your story. These kinds of stories are boring. You are better than that.
If you say you want something, ask yourself if you REALLY want it. Then go for it and don't look back. Trust the Universe to open up to you. You can't control what actually happens, but you can control what you intend and how you respond to opportunities when they appear.
Hold the vision and act.
William Frank Diedrich,
author of Beyond Blaming at
http://noblaming.com
Then things don't work out and we blame someone, or something, or ourselves.
Secretly we are relieved to have failed, and to have someone or something to blame for it. That becomes your story. These kinds of stories are boring. You are better than that.
If you say you want something, ask yourself if you REALLY want it. Then go for it and don't look back. Trust the Universe to open up to you. You can't control what actually happens, but you can control what you intend and how you respond to opportunities when they appear.
Hold the vision and act.
William Frank Diedrich,
author of Beyond Blaming at
http://noblaming.com
Thursday, August 22, 2013
Disinfect
Disinfect your workplace, home, or community from blaming and complaining.
Stop doing it!
Love others as they are, and speak always from your true voice.
Others will be inspired by you.
William Frank Diedrich
author of Beyond Blaming,
http://noblaming.com
Attend one of Bill's workshops, For Adults Only,
in September in Grand Rapids, East Lansing, or Kalamazoo.
Click on the link above and then click on "workshops."
Stop doing it!
Love others as they are, and speak always from your true voice.
Others will be inspired by you.
William Frank Diedrich
author of Beyond Blaming,
http://noblaming.com
Attend one of Bill's workshops, For Adults Only,
in September in Grand Rapids, East Lansing, or Kalamazoo.
Click on the link above and then click on "workshops."
Wednesday, August 21, 2013
Vision
Your opinion of yourself is your vision for yourself.
How do you see yourself? Not good enough? Then that is your vision--that you are not good enough in your life. Someone who has value? Then that is your vision, that you have value to offer.
Your opinion of another person is your vision for that person.
To envision greatness, or love, or success in yourself or another, you must see that it is already there.
It's a seed ready to sprout. Just as the oak is already inside the acorn, the butterfly is already inside the caterpillar, so your success/wealth/love/creativity is already within you.
Nurture yourself, and nurture your vision.
William Frank Diedrich
author of Beyond Blaming,
http://noblaming.com
How do you see yourself? Not good enough? Then that is your vision--that you are not good enough in your life. Someone who has value? Then that is your vision, that you have value to offer.
Your opinion of another person is your vision for that person.
To envision greatness, or love, or success in yourself or another, you must see that it is already there.
It's a seed ready to sprout. Just as the oak is already inside the acorn, the butterfly is already inside the caterpillar, so your success/wealth/love/creativity is already within you.
Nurture yourself, and nurture your vision.
William Frank Diedrich
author of Beyond Blaming,
http://noblaming.com
Tuesday, August 20, 2013
Blame or Bless?
To blame: To see the worst in someone. To project one's own fears on to another. To desire some punishment for a person.
To bless: To see the best in someone. To project one's love on to another. To desire only the highest good for a person.
Each moment with each thought, toward yourself or toward another, you either blame or you bless.
What do want to come of this day? You will choose to blame or to bless, and that will make all the difference.
William Frank Diedrich
author of Beyond Blaming
http://noblaming.com
To bless: To see the best in someone. To project one's love on to another. To desire only the highest good for a person.
Each moment with each thought, toward yourself or toward another, you either blame or you bless.
What do want to come of this day? You will choose to blame or to bless, and that will make all the difference.
William Frank Diedrich
author of Beyond Blaming
http://noblaming.com
Monday, August 19, 2013
Be Creative!
You are center of influence. Everything you think, feel, say, and do has an effect on others -- on the world. You teach people how to respond to you. You teach the world how to respond to you.
Be creative!
William Frank Diedrich
Author of Beyond Blaming
at http://noblaming.com
Sunday, August 18, 2013
Start Over
Think for a moment, Who are the people you blame, hold responsible, resent, or otherwise feel negatively toward?
Add them up and that's a lot of weight to carry. Bless them and let them go.
If you resist this, how does your holding on benefit you?
Wouldn't you rather be at peace, free of all hurt and anger?
Start over today, letting go, lighter, more free, with a whole world of possibilities.
Beyond Blaming
William Frank Diedrich
http://noblaming.com
Add them up and that's a lot of weight to carry. Bless them and let them go.
If you resist this, how does your holding on benefit you?
Wouldn't you rather be at peace, free of all hurt and anger?
Start over today, letting go, lighter, more free, with a whole world of possibilities.
Beyond Blaming
William Frank Diedrich
http://noblaming.com
Saturday, August 17, 2013
Cross the Line
Growing up, true success, happiness, and spiritual growth are all reachable once you cross this line:
Take full responsibility for your life.
Responsibility is not blame. It is the ability to respond.
No one is to blame for where you are right now.
What is, is. Face it. Own it. Envision where you want to go.
Take the first step.
You are much more powerful than you think.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming,
http://noblaming.com
Take full responsibility for your life.
Responsibility is not blame. It is the ability to respond.
No one is to blame for where you are right now.
What is, is. Face it. Own it. Envision where you want to go.
Take the first step.
You are much more powerful than you think.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming,
http://noblaming.com
Friday, August 16, 2013
No Permission Needed
You need no one's permission to be the person you want to be.
That being the case, there is no one to blame for who you become.
There are only choices to be made.
If you chose poorly, choose again.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming,
http://noblaming.com
That being the case, there is no one to blame for who you become.
There are only choices to be made.
If you chose poorly, choose again.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming,
http://noblaming.com
Thursday, August 15, 2013
What kind of day will today be?
What kind of day will today be?
You will decide.
Things will happen that you cannot control, but you will determine your experience.
Pour love into whatever you do today, and into whomever you meet.
Be the person who reaches out, who steps up, who offers understanding, and who forgives.
Be the person who is open, who is courageous, and creative.
Be love.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming found at
http;//noblaming.com
You will decide.
Things will happen that you cannot control, but you will determine your experience.
Pour love into whatever you do today, and into whomever you meet.
Be the person who reaches out, who steps up, who offers understanding, and who forgives.
Be the person who is open, who is courageous, and creative.
Be love.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming found at
http;//noblaming.com
Wednesday, August 14, 2013
Idiots and Others
Other people assume the role you assign to them.
If someone is your tormentor, it is because you have given that person the role.
If someone is an idiot, it is because you have cast him to play that role in your life.
You are the creator of your experience.
Reality is not "out there." It's being created moment to moment in your mind.
Blame is a distortion of reality. It's a story.
The stories you tell yourself make up reality as you know it.
What can you do? Take responsibility for your experience.
Who are you being when you call that person an idiot, a tormentor, or bad?
What do you want your experience to be?
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming found at
http://noblaming.com
If someone is your tormentor, it is because you have given that person the role.
If someone is an idiot, it is because you have cast him to play that role in your life.
You are the creator of your experience.
Reality is not "out there." It's being created moment to moment in your mind.
Blame is a distortion of reality. It's a story.
The stories you tell yourself make up reality as you know it.
What can you do? Take responsibility for your experience.
Who are you being when you call that person an idiot, a tormentor, or bad?
What do you want your experience to be?
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming found at
http://noblaming.com
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
Who Would you be?
We spend so much time running from fear.
Eating, drinking, watching TV, anything to avoid the discomfort.
We blame people and situations to avoid the perceived pain of personal responsibility.
What if you faced it? What if you allowed yourself to face the fear, to feel it?
What if you assumed unconditional accountability for everything in your life,
no excuses, no blaming, no defensiveness?
When it comes to fear, the only way out, is through it.
Fear is only a feeling. Who are you when you are afraid? A victim?
Someone powerless? Someone not good enough?
Whoever you are when you are in fear, it's just an identity that you have constructed. It's not real.
Beneath the fear is a treasure--the real you--confident, caring, and wise.
Who would you be without your fears? How would you feel? How would you act?
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming found at
http://noblaming.com
Eating, drinking, watching TV, anything to avoid the discomfort.
We blame people and situations to avoid the perceived pain of personal responsibility.
What if you faced it? What if you allowed yourself to face the fear, to feel it?
What if you assumed unconditional accountability for everything in your life,
no excuses, no blaming, no defensiveness?
When it comes to fear, the only way out, is through it.
Fear is only a feeling. Who are you when you are afraid? A victim?
Someone powerless? Someone not good enough?
Whoever you are when you are in fear, it's just an identity that you have constructed. It's not real.
Beneath the fear is a treasure--the real you--confident, caring, and wise.
Who would you be without your fears? How would you feel? How would you act?
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming found at
http://noblaming.com
Monday, August 12, 2013
Happy!
Anyone can be "happy" when everything is going well, although many persons who seemingly have everything are very unhappy.
Can you be happy if everything is not perfect in your life? Can you be happy if things appear to be not going well?
"Happy" = a sense of well-being, of loving and liking yourself, of appreciating who you are, appreciating people around you, and loving life.
If so, you are a blessing to the world. If not, it doesn't matter what good fortune may come your way.
You'll still find ways to be unhappy, or you'll be in fear of losing what you have.
You are the creator of your experience, regardless of what is going on around you. There is no one to blame for your experience. However your life is going, pour love into it. Don't go through life being an effect; understand that you are cause. Take responsibility without judging.
The love that you are will reflect back to you in the people and circumstances around you.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming. Found at
http://noblaming.com
Can you be happy if everything is not perfect in your life? Can you be happy if things appear to be not going well?
"Happy" = a sense of well-being, of loving and liking yourself, of appreciating who you are, appreciating people around you, and loving life.
If so, you are a blessing to the world. If not, it doesn't matter what good fortune may come your way.
You'll still find ways to be unhappy, or you'll be in fear of losing what you have.
You are the creator of your experience, regardless of what is going on around you. There is no one to blame for your experience. However your life is going, pour love into it. Don't go through life being an effect; understand that you are cause. Take responsibility without judging.
The love that you are will reflect back to you in the people and circumstances around you.
William Frank Diedrich, author of
Beyond Blaming. Found at
http://noblaming.com
Wednesday, August 7, 2013
Really?
"I'm miserable. I'm lonely. I'm suffering." (Hands on hips.) "But at least I know I'm right!" Really? (Deep breath.) Beyond blame is freedom. I want that.
William Frank Diedrich
http://noblaming.com
William Frank Diedrich
http://noblaming.com
Monday, August 5, 2013
You Learn
How do you know when you are growing up? One sign is this:
You make a big mistake and you take the opportunity to learn from it rather than beat yourself up.
Or, instead of blaming others, you own it, and you learn.
Life is for learning. If you are not making any mistakes you better feel your heart and make sure it's still beating.
William Frank Diedrich
http://noblaming.com
"You live you learn. You love you learn. You cry you learn. You lose you learn. You bleed you learn. You scream you learn. You grieve you learn. You choke you learn. You laugh you learn. You choose you learn. You pray you learn. You ask you learn. You live you learn." From Alanis Morrissette, You Learn
You make a big mistake and you take the opportunity to learn from it rather than beat yourself up.
Or, instead of blaming others, you own it, and you learn.
Life is for learning. If you are not making any mistakes you better feel your heart and make sure it's still beating.
William Frank Diedrich
http://noblaming.com
"You live you learn. You love you learn. You cry you learn. You lose you learn. You bleed you learn. You scream you learn. You grieve you learn. You choke you learn. You laugh you learn. You choose you learn. You pray you learn. You ask you learn. You live you learn." From Alanis Morrissette, You Learn
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